Parenting advice for when a child has trouble coping
We had a question from a parent for Bill Corbett (our blog Parenting Expert ). This parent has a child who is having difficulty coping with decision making. She worries so much that she will make the "wrong" choice - that she gets so upset and argues. Here is the original question:
"One of my 7 yr old daughters gives us a run for our money. She can be very moody and will throw a fit at times when she doesn't get what she wants. She struggles making simple decisions (like which shirt to wear), and gets very worked up worrying that she is going to make the "wrong" choice. I'm always assuring her that there is no wrong choice and even limit her choices to just 2 things to make it less overwhelming. But when she is in one of her moods, there is no talking to her. And she also gets very "fresh" and argumentative with me about almost everything. When she gets that way, I generally walk away from her and tell her that I won't listen to her when she is speaking to me that way and that I will only listen when she talks nicely and treats me with respect. Eventually she comes around, but this is practically an everyday occurrence. Bill - my other two kids are not like this at all, so I can't really figure out how to deal with her. Her behavior really affects our entire family. If she is having a good day, the whole family has a good day. But when she is having a bad day.. watch out !! I'm considering taking her to a child psychologist or something since I feel she needs to be taught some coping skills in order to be able to better function in life. Any thoughts or strategies?"
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