Introducing our Parenting Expert!

Meet our Parenting Expert

When Tressa and I talked about starting a blog on our website, one of the main reasons we wanted to do this was to provide a way for parents and child care professionals to ask questions and receive ideas and support. One way that we planned to do this was by inviting professionals in the field of early childhood to become part of our "panel of experts". Our experts will provide guest blog posts on specific topics, and help to answer questions that are submitted to us.

We are VERY excited to introduce our first expert, Bill Corbett, the author of the book Love, Limits, & Lessons® and the founder and president of Cooperative Kids. We met Bill when he was the keynote speaker at our Early Childhood EXPO in January 2011, which was attended by both parents and ECE professionals. Bill's speaking style is down-to-earth, entertaining, and accessible. Since then, we have had the pleasure of seeing Bill at other early childhood events around Connecticut, and on his new cable TV show.

Bill is a member of the American Psychological Association (APA), the National Children's Alliance (NCA), the North American Society of Adlerian Psychology (NASAP), and the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC). He is also on the Resource Advisory Board of Attachment Parenting International (API) and spent 12 years as a parent educator and training director with the International Network for Children and Families. As a professional speaker and writer, he has won numerous awards with Toastmasters International and his syndicated column on discipline and child behavior appears in local family publications in many states across the country.

The methodology of Bill Corbett's teaching is inspired by the studies of child psychologists Rudolph Dreikurs and Alfred Adler and is centered on the approach that effective discipline first requires a solid understanding of why children act out the way they do. "Misbehavior is communication," Dreikurs wrote in his book, "Children The Challenge", and this communication must be interpreted in order to use discipline effectively. His theory and methods are based on firm AND respectful discipline and assists parents in raising up cooperative and responsible children.

We are honored to have Bill Corbett on our panel, and we look forward to his guest posts. As both a parent AND a preschool teacher, I am looking forward to what Bill has to share with us!

Do you have a question on child behavior? You can ask your questions by commenting below, or using the 'Ask the expert' submission form on the right-hand side of our blog!

Love, Limits, & Lessons

Comments

Hi Bill. Please help !! I have 3 young kids (7 yr old twin girls and a 4 year old boy). All 3 are very outgoing, outspoken and loud. Everyone constantly talks over each other in an effort to be heard. How can we teach them to stop interrupting and to be respectful of others when they are speaking? I swear my kids totally tune out everyone else and are just focus on asking their questions (they are all extremely inquisitive). We constantly remind them to take turns speaking and at dinner we've tried having a ball to pass around so that only the one holding the ball is speaking at that time. But nothing seems to work. Are my kids just that inconsiderate? Or are there other things we can try? Thanks in advance !!

Here is Bill's response to this issue: http://www.theseedsnetwork.com/seeding/parenting-advice-when-kids-are-interrupting

Hi again. I posted before (mother of 7 yr old twin girls and a 4 yr old boy). Other than their being loud and interrupting each other, they are all very kind-hearted, good-natured kids. However one of my 7 yr old daughters gives us a run for our money. She can be very moody and will throw a fit at times when she doesn't get what she wants. She struggles making simple decisions (like which shirt to wear), and gets very worked up worrying that she is going to make the "wrong" choice. I'm always assuring her that there is no wrong choice and even limit her choices to just 2 things to make it less overwhelming. But when she is in one of her moods, there is no talking to her. And she also gets very "fresh" and argumentative with me about almost everything. When she gets that way, I generally walk away from her and tell her that I won't listen to her when she is speaking to me that way and that I will only listen when she talks nicely and treats me with respect. Eventually she comes around, but this is practically an every day occurrence. Bill - my other two kids are not like this at all, so I can't really figure out how to deal with her. Her behavior really affects our entire family. If she is having a good day, the whole family has a good day. But when she is having a bad day.. watch out !! I'm considering taking her to a child psychologist or something since I feel she needs to be taught some coping skills in order to be able to better function in life. Any thoughts or strategies? Thanks in advance !!

Here is Bill's response to this issue: http://www.theseedsnetwork.com/seeding/parenting-advice-for-when-a-child-has-trouble-coping

Hi Bill, A close friend of mine is having some issues with her 2 year old biting. I am writing to you because this is not the first time someone has come to me with this issue; it seems somewhat common for this age group. As a director of a program, if my staff sees a child bite, we will take efforts to ensure that it does not happen again. We'll also look for triggers of why the child bit such as: are they teething, are they limited by speech, are they tired etc. In most instances we are able to get a child past the biting stage within a few weeks. My friend, however, seems to be having a more serious case. Desite redirection and distraction, she continues to have issues with her child biting friends and caregivers. Any suggestions Bill?

http://www.theseedsnetwork.com/seeding/what-to-do-when-toddler-is-biting